boyfriend check list
Thursday, August 05, 2010 8:55 AM
So much on my mind lately. Boyfriend has been so busy with his new job as some PR guy lately, so I've been feeling pretty lonely. I guess I've been acting a bit selfish, but maybe we're just in different stages of life at the moment and I just can't understand what it would be like in his situation. I'm not sure if it's a bad sign or not, but I've been thinking about a good boyfriend "check list". I never got to make one, but I saw someone on Tumblr posting one. I'm not trying to sound shallow, and it's perfectly alright if my boyfriend/future boyfriend/past boyfriend didn't meet some of them. It's just a good way to make sure that I don't somehow get lured in my some guy's false charms and end up in a sucky relationship with him. So, here it goes. Just improvising.
- Physical attraction. People say looks aren't everything, but that's false. We're human. The first thing we notice about someone is what they look like. And it's okay if the guy's not model material - I'm far from it. But he has to be at least somewhat decent looking, or I would have no attraction at all.
- Knows where he's going in life. I suppose this is more important when I'm older, or if the guy is older, but I don't want a guy who doesn't know what the heck he's doing and just slacks off everyday. If a guy can't even take care of himself, how can I expect him to take care of me? I'm not saying I need to be constantly watched and taken care of, but if we do eventually marry... I don't want to babysit my husband.
- Sense of humor, and sometimes has a bit of a child in him. I've always wanted to do pranks in public with a friend. If my boy can do this, I will love him even more. One of my hobbies. I love laughing and joking around, and I get a little intimidated at people who are constantly serious. But at the same time, I don't want him to be constantly joking around. There are times when you need to stop.
- More SPONTANEOUS than romantic. I love guys who know what and where the next date will be. I love guys who will show up at your window (or in my case, apartment) when you tell them you're sad. I love guys who will just cheer you up by surprising you. Bonus bonus BONUS points to any guy who does this.
- Accept me for my religion. Because my religion is more of a relationship. If my boyfriend hates me or will not accept the fact that I am a Christian, I have to say that I can not be with him unless he changes. It'll just ruin our relationship. I'm not trying to force my religion on anyone, I just need him to accept it.
- Please don't be completely shy. Not everyone's a party animal, but I don't like guys who are always shy. Honestly, I can't really stand those REALLY awkward, shy guys as my boyfriend. I can be shy and awkward too so it's alright if you're a little, but not all the time and I'm trying to be more outgoing. I love guys who can introduce themselves to people and at least pretend they feel comfortable in a crowd of people. I like guys who can make the first move.
- Trust & honesty. This is definitely a must. I don't need to say any more.
- Just love me for who I am, not what I am. I'm not sure if I worded that right, but please don't love me because I have money (which I don't, but it's just an example). Love me because I'm... me.
I guess that's it for now.
& even if some guy meets all these points, it doesn't mean that he'll be the perfect guy. Honestly, I think my boy meets almost all these points, and we still do have a lot of problems. Maybe it's because we sometimes have a problem with trust, which is basically the foundation of all relationships. Well...